Where did the last one leave off? Ah, yes. You see, there are things I would like to have had happen differently in my life (for instance, attending this university). But there are other things that have come about from the same circumstances (such as the friends I've made here), and that would *not* have happened in another context. But had I attended a different university (such as the University of Missouri at Rolla, where I have oft regretted not considering in a more serious manner), my education would have been different (and, I like to think, better), but so would have been my companions. In a misguided private high school I forfeited (or, rather, delayed) the grade level I'd picked up in the ironically superior public school. But the friends I made in that grade are invaluable to me. And, in as far as I can attempt to analyze it objectively, I would not have made nearly such good friends had I been in the class ahead. So it's all rather incomprehensible; and besides, human minds weren't designed (or, at least, haven't been conditioned in this environment) for temporal puzzles. Much too complex.
Let's cut back to the supposed topic for a moment. Ah, yes. I've heard Batts give this one before. Probably last year.
JOY:
Jesus first
Others second
Yourself last
Wrong!
JIN:
Jesus loves me
therefore I can love myself
and so Now I am free to love others
People really need to realize that self-love isn't wrong, so long as it isn't accomplished at the expense of others.
On a related note, we must "speak the truth in love." Got two parts: truth, and love. It's called "tact".
Listen. Share. Accept them the way you accept yourself. Active listening requires attention, and care.
Batts doesn't think one should ask "How are you doing?" unless the question is actually meant -- concern for how the other is doing. This is true to an extent, but I believe this issue is not quite accurate. "How are you doing?" is in today's context understood to be merely a greeting. Instead, given the social norm in place, it ought to be on the burden of the questioner to provide significance to his question; that is, make it very clear that one seeks a true answer to the question.
But it is very true that people must care more about each other.